Men Who Refused to Accept Failure

"I kept asking her, 'Why can't you tell me what it is or what you want? Why can't you draw me a map?' But she was. I just couldn't understand her. My wife was feeling the same frustration that every other wife feels, because they can't translate it into how dudes talk. She told me a thousand times. She was screaming at me, telling me exactly what she wanted. And I was scratching my head, saying, 'Why can't you draw it in black and white?' And it was in black and white. I just couldn't read until the bootcamp taught me what to look for.

When I started interviewing women as part of the program, it hit me like a ton of bricks: these women were using the exact same words my wife had been saying for years—and the exact same words Curtis was teaching in the videos. That's when I realized this wasn't just theory—it was the decoder ring I'd been missing my whole life."

"The knowledge here was the king. It just changed everything. It rebooted my way of thinking and the way of looking at things. I've become much more emotionally stronger. I didn't have that confidence that my wife was craving. I didn't realize I was missing that confidence. My daughter said, 'Dad, there's something different about you and I've never been closer to you.' That right there... I made the investment for my kids, and the freebie is I learned, I grew, and it helped my relationship as well.

I'm now happy from the inside out. I create my own happiness. The support from Curtis and Linda was not just words – it was wisdom from people who understand where I'm at, but also where I need to be. Trust the system and give it your all. You will succeed and become the man you were meant to be.

I was constantly trying to fix everything, but I've learned that doing nothing can open more doors than jumping in ever did. The bootcamp didn't just change my actions—it rebooted my entire identity as a man."

"Before RB4M, I was a mess after my wife discovered the [second life I was living]. The bootcamp showed me that if I committed, I could build something better with her. It helped me see how deeply I'd hurt my wife and recognize that our relationship was worth the hard effort of change. Now I can interpret her feelings and desires at a deeper, more intimate level.

This process isn't easy, but it's making me the best version of myself—not just for my wife, but for everyone in my life. If you're thinking of joining, do it. The bootcamp revealed blind spots in myself and my relationship I never knew existed, and showed me exactly how to address them.

The bootcamp offered me an opportunity to look deeply at myself and recognize what I was doing wrong. After watching the videos and doing the work, I feel that my relationship with my wife can become stronger, safer, and better than ever. For the first time, I can actually hear what my wife has been trying to tell me for years."

"I wouldn't have even noticed these feelings of reservation from her. I was absolutely oblivious to all of it. I was trying to interpret her with masculinity. If I thought she needed to respond to something, I would push and force. I just thought when I asked a direct question, it deserved a direct response. And if I wasn't getting a direct response, I thought she was being disrespectful or trying to be distant.

It's amazing how much my channel of understanding has opened up, how blind I was. I had no idea how much I wasn't seeing. My wife and I have been together for 13 years, married for almost 8. I can go back now and replay scenarios from 12, 13 years ago when she was trying to say something. I wasn't listening. I was hearing but not listening. I didn't have the awareness or the knowledge to understand what I should be listening for.

Now that I have RB4M to guide me, I know how to interpret things differently. I can look back and see that all of our marital challenges, 99.9% of that was me—and I didn't even realize it then. I don't have to overthink it or over-effort it anymore. I'm really clear on what works well now. I'm learning how my Blind Spots are affecting my wife and being responsible for that, and now she's starting to trust me more. She's starting to see this is for real."

"For the last 2-3 years, I've been trying to better myself. There is so much content out there on YouTube that I was following, and you guys are the only ones who are getting into stuff that nobody out there is teaching. I even signed up for online coaching with some of these people, and I'm just telling you that what I'm getting out of RB4M during the 4 weeks I've been in it so far, this is the right spot.

My aha moment was that I noticed that when things get tough, I shut down and get stuck. I never noticed that before. Curtis and Linda talked me off the ledge, and I gave myself permission to be right where I am. The desire to do this for me and me alone has been my driving force. I'm committed to being the best new version of me that I can.

I've been applying what I've been learning here and my anxiety seems to be lifted. I know I'm working damn hard on this program, and I have confidence in myself that I didn't have before. I have stopped a lot of the self-sabotage, and my confidence keeps growing with everything I'm learning and practicing here.

Despite working 60+ hours a week and a long daily commute into San Francisco, I made this bootcamp a priority. I fell behind sometimes, but I'd get caught up. I truly believe that if I'm going to fix everything that's been going on in my marriage, and if I'm going to be the man I want to be, this is the right place."

"It felt like my life was spiraling out of control when I thought my marriage was falling apart. I didn't know what to do to right the ship. My wife was on her way out, but now things are getting better so much faster than I could even hope for. What's amazing is that we're intimate together again! We're affectionate towards each other. We're communicating. She just needed to see a change out of me, and this program was exactly the change I needed.

During tense moments, I know what to do now. Instead of arguments taking 3 days to resolve like in the past—with us arguing and ignoring each other—now it only takes 3 minutes.

One thing that struck me is how the bootcamp seems to read my mind. When I was going through the darkest moments and started doubting myself, I went back to the training videos, and they addressed exactly where I was at in my head. Curtis, I could tell you've lived it and been through it yourself—that authenticity was exactly what I needed when I felt lost.

I feel like you guys are speaking directly to me. Everything is 100% relative to my situation. I've been able to stop the hurt and start working on repairing it. We're more friendly towards each other again. I'm optimistic things are moving in the right direction. It doesn't feel like checkmate anymore."

"I would have never imagined, no matter how different they are, they would react the same exact way when it comes to their safety and feelings. After my first week between the videos, the Q&A call, and these first interviews, I am just amazed and so thankful for what I have learned already. I think back to my first call with Linda and remember saying I was concerned that my wife was not like most women, she is so strong, independent, and different from any women I have met. I thought there was no way she would feel the same way as other women, but Linda assured me I would be surprised. Surprised is an understatement."

"I was thinking, 'I don't get it. Look at all the things I've done over here [for my wife]. I'm supportive. I'm a good man. I've done all these things for you [my wife].' I think the a-ha is when you go through these trainings, and you realize this is ALL self-inflicted. Now I'm starting to learn what to do to stop that and make things better."

[After only 23 days with RB4M]